I was recently interviewed on the radio on the topic of shaking hands. Several people â€˜phoned in to ask about the rules. It seems the rules arenâ€™t well known or donâ€™t exist.
I remember meeting a senior manager once who didnâ€™t accept my hand to shake when I held it out. I felt embarrassed. He later told me he had done this on purpose to put me offside and establish himself as being in control. If the purpose of hand shaking is to connect with someone and come across as trustworthyâ€¦ he failed miserably.
Here the rules for starting out with the right handâ€¦ shake.
Make eye contact and smile if you can. At least relax your facial muscles.
Put out your right hand and leave it there.
Match the grip of the other personâ€¦ exactly.
Shake up and down three times.
Let go last.
People often speak whilst shaking and say things like â€˜Pleased to meet youâ€™.
You really do get only one chance to make a first impression and a good handshake gets past most barriers. Iâ€™ll write again on what not to do. For the time being, practise matching the grip whilst keeping eye contact. If it helps, identify the colour of the personâ€™s eyes while shaking their hand. Relationships make the world go round and getting started is a necessary skill. See how many hands you can shake today.