If we were fearless we wouldn’t live long. Fear is very useful. It is warning device. It is helpful. Pay attention to it but don’t be ruled by it. For example, if you don’t speak up at a meeting because of fear, you miss an opportunity to contribute. If you don’t sell yourself at a job interview because of fear, you don’t get the job.
Imagine that the fear is not coming from you but is an outside warning like a sign beside the road. ‘Narrow bridge ahead’. You slow down but don’t stop. Same with fear of public speaking. Say ‘Thanks’ to the warning and make preparations. Plan for all situations. The what ifs.
Forget what I am going to say. ( Have a mind map with you on stage )
The computer won’t work. ( Make sure there is another computer available )
See my CEO in the front row. ( Assume they are there to support you )
If your mind keeps sending you unhelpful thoughts, simply focus back on what you are doing at the present moment. Focus on your breathing.
The trick is to let unhelpful thoughts pass by without engagement. Focus on what you are doing and let the thoughts pass by like signs on the freeway.
Fear is good. Fearless is silly. Acknowledge the warning and prepare for any eventuality.
Feel the fear and keep on trucking.