Somethings need to be changed. Somethings are better accepted. For example, the behaviour of others towards you. You can ask them to change or accept that they won’t change. Expecting others to change to please you is ambitious. Learning to accept their behaviour can be challenging but will benefit you in the long term. Your feelings are not automatic and you have some control. Your spin on what is being done to you can alter your feelings and make them more acceptable.
It takes courage, patience and self esteem to accept another’s unpleasant behaviour. Maybe try acceptance before asking the other to change their behaviour.It is easier if you come from acceptance when asking another to change. Starting from rejection makes the task so much harder.